Even though the advice you get for having a healthy marriage will often times seem obvious, you might find it’s the obvious advice that is needed. Often times when you are in a long term relationship it becomes hard to actually step back and see what is in front of your face and it only takes a bit of simple advice for you to really see where the problems lay.

These 10 tips will help you when you are trying to figure out how to “save my marriage”.

1.Being truthful.

Not only being honest with your significant other but being honest with yourself. Part of being honest is actually looking at what is working well and what is not working in the slightest. If you are unable to be truthful to yourself and are fooling yourself into thinking everything is fine, then things will stay as they are instead of improving.

2.Communicating effectively.

Communicating properly is a very important part of having a happy relationship. If you are on your way to a divorce it can be a very effective way to save your marriage. It is so easy to fall into the routine of constantly arguing and fighting as the only type of communication.

3.Understand that your significant other is only half of the problem.

You need to realize that solely trying to fix your partner’s behavior will not fix all of the problems in your marriage. A marriage is the union of two people so to expect one of them to do all of the changing and adapting is not healthy and it won’t happen. If you try to do this it will not lead to a healthy strong marriage.

4. Learn the difference between being in love and falling in love.

When you fall in love with someone they can do no wrong in your eyes and you let them do things that you may not necessarily agree with normally. That is why it takes work to stay in love – the love is still there, but it doesn’t work to act however you please and have the love still be there.

5. The Marriage Karma.

Understanding how karma works in marriages.What you give is what you receive.If you go the extra mile for your significant other and show that you are a kind, considerate, and caring person, then you stand a great chance that you will be treated back with kindness, consideration, and care.

6. Becoming Complacent.

It is easy once you have settled into married life to go beyond being content and start to take each other for granted. You may have gotten to the point where you feel you don’t have to tell your spouse you love them, because you do, and they should know that. Everyone needs to be told they are loved once in awhile, and even if they know it they need to hear it.

7. Make The Time.

Time is often one of the biggest romance robbers in a relationship. With the fast pace of living that many people are faced with its difficult to find time for romance. Finances seem to play a big factor in this as well, but it really shouldn’t. Expressing love for each other through romance can be done at no financial cost.

8. Put Some Thought Into Your Romance.

Just telling your spouse that you love them is not enough. You will need to show it as well. After all when you were first dating no doubt you gave a great deal of thought to the romance of the relationship.

9. Put Forth The Effort.

Make an effort to lure your partner back into the relationship, and by doing so you will be taking positive steps to save your marriage. Be seductive and appealing. Be a plain old fashioned romantic by doing some little things that you know your partner will respond to. Also, try to make it intriguing. This way your spouse is going to see and feel that you truly do want to save your marriage, and there really is a foundation of love there.

10. Make It Consistent.

One very important factor to keep in mind is to remain consistent. If you are really putting forth an effort into romance in the beginning just to save your marriage, then stop because you are going to lose your partner’s trust.

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